Dear Empowered Reader,
As we step into 2025, I want to invite you to leave behind the pressure of traditional resolutions. Instead, let’s focus on setting intentions rooted in self-love, compassion, and honoring our boundaries. Resolutions often feel like a list of expectations to meet, but intentions allow us to grow in ways that align with our authentic selves.
My Self-Love Reflection
I masked my emotions for most of my life—it was second nature. I didn’t feel comfortable or invited to express my feelings. Vulnerability wasn’t modeled culturally for black women or nurtured, so I easily learned to suppress my emotions. In my relationships with men, this habit deepened. I was often told I was “too much” or “extra,” when I shared how I felt. Vulnerability, which I now know to be a great strength, felt like a weakness.
In turn, I defaulted to silence. I began putting the needs of others ahead of my own, not just in relationships but in every aspect of my life. This became an instinct—a survival mechanism I carried for years. Once I became a mother, my mindset shifted further. I lived for my children instead of myself, smiling because it felt easier than showing hurt, disappointment, or exhaustion.
But what I didn’t realize was that by masking my true feelings, I wasn’t protecting myself or my loved ones—I was self-sacrificing and settling in ways that quietly hurt me. Masking didn’t make things easier; it disconnected me from my own needs and desires.
It took time and intention, but I’ve learned that self-sacrifice isn’t the same as love. My journey to unapologetically show up as me—with my joys, my pain, and my truth—has been one of the most freeing experiences of my life. Vulnerability is not a weakness; it’s the bridge to authenticity and connection.
This is why I created EmpowerHer Society—a space for women of color to experience the freedom of showing up fully as themselves in a nonjudgmental, loving, and supportive community. EmpowerHer Society is where we can honor our emotions, embrace our strengths, and grow alongside like-minded women who understand and uplift one another.
Three Steps to Set Intentions with Self-Love
Focus on Intentions, Not Goals
Instead of rigid resolutions, set intentions that resonate with how you want to feel and grow. Words like “peace,” “balance,” or “authenticity” can serve as guiding lights, allowing you to adapt as the year unfolds.
Set Boundaries Early
Be clear about your priorities with loved ones. Share how they can support your journey and let them know when you need space to focus on yourself. Boundaries aren’t about exclusion; they’re about creating space for what truly matters.
Celebrate Small Wins
Self-love is a journey, not a destination. Every time you honor your needs, speak your truth or show yourself compassion, it’s a victory. Take a moment to acknowledge these small wins—they’re the building blocks of lasting change.
Why Women of Color Need to Reclaim This Space
For women of color, this journey is often layered with cultural and societal expectations. We’ve been taught to “be strong,” to put others first, and to suppress our needs for the good of our families and communities. While this strength is admirable, it often comes at the cost of our emotional well-being.
This year, let’s rewrite that narrative together. We deserve to show up as our full, unapologetic selves—prioritizing our joy and growth without guilt. When we honor ourselves, we honor the people we love by showing them what self-respect and authenticity look like.
The Ripple Effect of Self-Love
When we prioritize ourselves, the transformation extends far beyond us. By unapologetically showing up as you, you create a powerful ripple effect. Your children, your friends, and your family witness what it means to honor yourself, and it inspires them to do the same.
This year, let’s leave behind the mask and embrace the beauty of showing up fully. Your authentic self is enough—more than enough—and the world benefits when you live unapologetically as you.
With love and care ❤️
Jennifer Nicole
P.S. This letter is your reminder to love yourself every single day. When you love you, everyone will begin to feel it too.
Let's Stay Connected
If this post resonated with you, I’d love for you to stay connected!
Visit my websites, Perfectly Imperfect and EmpowerHer Society, for more insights, resources, and updates on how we can navigate this journey together.
Let’s stay in touch on social media, too! Follow me on Instagram at @empowerhersociety and @sheisjennifernicole, or connect with me on LinkedIn at Jennifer Nicole Brown.
*Disclaimer: The resources mentioned in this post are shared because I believe they could be helpful and have personally found them of interest. I am affiliated with Perfectly Imperfect Counseling Services as the founder and a therapist and EmpowerHer Society as its creator and facilitator, and I share it as part of my mission to support women of color in their journey toward self-love, empowerment, and balance. For all other resources, I am not affiliated and do not receive compensation for sharing them. These resources are provided solely for informational purposes to support your personal growth and well-being. I encourage you to explore them and determine if they align with your needs.
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